When it comes to dating and relationships, I often find myself wondering how certain people end up with others. Wondering why they don’t walk away if they don’t get what they deserve and hoping that they truly appreciate their teammate if they are getting what they deserve.
I think a big part of the problem blurring this line is that many people aren’t even quite sure what a healthy relationship looks like these days or how a “good man” (or woman) should act towards their partner. To help clarify, I have put together this list of how a good man should act while in a relationship.
1.He is supportive more often than not.
A good man understands the importance of remaining supportive and accommodating to a woman’s needs. This doesn’t entail being a “Yes Man,” but being a man that can offer support and accommodation when the situation calls for such.
2. He is able to put aside his ego.
In order to come to a solution together, men will reluctantly need to swallow their pride sometimes—even when they are too stubborn to admit they are wrong. Ladies, this is no easy feat (even for us!) But if you’ve got a great man in your life, he’ll listen to your side of the story and take an unbiased approach—no matter how difficult.
3.He is honest and forthcoming.
A good man will not lie, cheat, or steal, especially to the person he loves the most in the world. A good man should not feel any hesitation in telling it like it is, whether what he has to say be good or bad.
4.He is willing to compromise
If he’s giving up watching his regular Football Sunday to take you to that overly hyped art exhibit that you’ve been dying to go to, you know you got it good. He frequently puts your interests over his if it means having the chance to see your face light up. If it’s something he’s especially not interested in, bonus points for him.
5.He finds you beautiful
Yes, even when you’re sporting the “no makeup” look and are lounging at home in your sweats and messy bun. He secretly loves it. Maybe even more so than when you’re dressed to the nine.
6.He finds ways to surprise you
It might not be your birthday or anniversary for another six months, but that’s never stopped him. A great guy will try to appease you, even in the smallest of gestures—like washing your car or cooking your favorite meal before you get home from work.
7.He trusts you (and is also trustworthy)
There’s no need for him to question who you’re out with at the bar, or who is texting you at night. He trusts that you have his best interests in mind and wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize what you two have. Similarly, he’s never led you to believe anything otherwise either.
8.He is there for you
The most important part of a relationship is the friendship. Your guy should be able to treat you as he would his best friend. That is, in the sense that he will listen to you, support your decisions, and can give you some thoughtful advice. Maybe you’re mulling over how to tell your manager that you need a raise. He is happy to add his two cents on how to make sure you get what you deserve, and follows through to make sure you got it.
9.He works to earn, and keep, your trust.
A good man understands that trust, like love, cannot be forced; it must be earned. After earning the woman’s sacred trust, a good man will take such a blessing for granted. Furthermore, a good man never leaves his trust in-doubt.
10.He introduces you to his family and friends
He’s also inclined to meet yours. You know he’s thinking about the relationship seriously when he’s willing to branch out of the bubble you two have made for yourselves. By introducing you to his family and friends, he’s letting them know that it’s time for the most important people in his life to now cross paths.
11.He accepts your flaws
Let’s be real. We all have our baggage, no matter how small. We also all have our alter-egos that can sometimes drive people crazy. Your man recognizes your bad habits—the way you can easily binge hours on end of Netflix without stepping a foot outside the house, the way you forget to refill the toilet paper roll in the bathroom, or the way you fidget with your hands when you’re nervous.
12.He always seeks self-improvement.
A good man never really gives himself too much credit. Though he may be intelligent, a good man seeks to always self-improvement; whether this is through learning something new, taking on added responsibilities, or getting into better shape, a good man prides himself on becoming better.
13.He makes you feel safe and secure.
Feeling safety and secure is a vital component for any woman in her relationship. It is the man’s duty to ensure that such feelings are present. In the event of something unfortunate, a good man will always stand up for and defend his woman.
14.He will never crosses the line.
It is natural to have disagreements and even arguments in a relationship, but there is no reason to make things personal, become insulting and never, ever to become abusive. A good man will remain calm and focus on the topic at hand.
15.He will never be abusive.
Perhaps the most important point of all. Whether it be mentally, emotionally or physically, a good man will never even think about being abusive towards you or harmful in any way. If this happens to you, please have the courage and respect for yourself in order to talk to someone or walk away immediately. No good person would ever act like this, and it will not get better on its own.
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