Is the guy you’re dating a boy or a man? Obviously this topic has been beaten down all over the internet by almost every publication. So to keep things interesting, we’re going to cover more qualities and behavior that make him a boy, not a man, when it comes to being in a relationship.
You’re a woman — you have your shit together and consider yourself to be an evolved person! Of course you don’t want to stick around with some guy if he’s emotionally immature, passive, non-communicative, and doesn’t treat you amazing, right? But of course love and relationships are more complicated than that. Perhaps you really love him, or you just don’t want to hurt him, or you’re attached to the relationship and just don’t know how to end it, or you simply just have been putting up with behavior that is far below what you deserve without you even realizing it.
So how do you know exactly if you’re dating a boy, and not man? Well, there are a few signs that you can check out.
1#. He Avoids Difficult Conversations With You
He’s not willing to have the big talks with you because he’s too afraid of being uncomfortable. He doesn’t want to have to talk about difficult things like finances, emotions, feelings, or career plans. These ideas intimidate him because he is still a little immature.
2#. He Lies To You
He still believes that he lives in a world that would let him get away with anything if he tells enough lies. He doesn’t know that one day, all his lies are going to come back and bite him in the butt.
3#. Doesn’t Remember Any Plans He Doesn’t Make Himself
Guys don’t always like having to go to your sorority sister’s wedding or your family reunion, but if you’ve told him about it, he should have marked his calendar. If he acts surprised when the day arrives, this is a sign that he doesn’t respect you, which is a major symptom of immaturity.
4#. Always Putting You Through Tests In The Relationship
He really doesn’t trust you enough to know whether your feelings for him are real. He always wants to try and test the limits of your love. He wants to try and push you over the edge to see if you would still come back to him.
5#. He Tries To Control You
He doesn’t want you to have your own life. He is going to restrict your freedom as much as possible. He always wants to have full control of your life because he doesn’t want you to be doing anything that might inconvenience him.
6#. He Doesn’t Take Care Of You
I don’t mean financially. You’re an independent, 21st-century woman — you don’t need a man to pay your bills. But if he’s not bringing you chicken soup when you’re sick or giving you rides when your car’s in the shop, this is not a guy you can depend on.
7#. He Worries Too Much About What Other People Think
A man doesn’t care what anyone thinks about him as long as he believes in what he’s doing. Confidence (not arrogance) comes with maturity.
8#. He’s Rebellious For No Reason
No one wants to be a full-on conformist, but we are living in a society, here. If this guy intentionally does the opposite of what’s expected from him just for the sake of being contrarian, that’s a sign of insecurity, immaturity or douche-baggery.
9#. Not Interested In Self-Improvement
I don’t mean self-help. I’m talking about learning new skills, becoming more invested in current affairs, reading more… that sort of thing. If he thought he was finished gaining any kind of knowledge when he graduated from school, he’s still got a lot to learn.
10#. He Likes Most About You Is Your Looks
Obviously, physical attraction is important, but if you’ve been together awhile and your hotness is still your number one draw, this is a relationship with little hope for success. A man needs to connect with his partner on numerous levels. A boy just wants to bang a hot chick.
11#. He Only Cares About Himself
He has no interest in your hopes and dreams unless they revolve around him; he only cares that his needs are being met. An actual adult would have already figured out he’s not the center of the goddamn universe.
Guys tend to be messy during the dorm room phase. You might find lots of pizza boxes, clothing strewn all across the place, and empty boxes of takeout, empty cans of beer and other junk foods. If your guy has not grown out of this phase then chances are he is still a boy.
13#. JEALOUS AND POSSESSIVE
Many women find overly jealous guys a real turnoff. While some might try to make the guy they like jealous, they never meant for him to go on a rampage, or consider committing a murder like this guy in the image here might be. If a guy continues in this way and never gives you any room to breathe, then he is a boy not a man.
14#. He’s Selfish In Bed
He thinks sex is only about getting him off. Whether he’s skipping the foreplay or racing to the finish line, he hasn’t learned that relationship sex is about teamwork.
15#. NOT GREAT WITH BIRTH CONTROL
In relationships, sex happens, and its up to both parties to responsibly do their parts to ensure that they are safe. The guy should always make sure that he has a condom with him, and not simply leave it to the girl to sort it out. When a man can take this basic precaution, she would feel more confident that he really does care about her and both of their well being.